I (35f) want to donate 10k to my ex (24m) this Christmas. Would that be too much?
Going to use a throwaway. I'm a 35 year old woman. Last year I had a short relationship (3 months) with this younger man. He's handsome and a good guy, I had broken up with my boyfriend of 7 years a few months earlier and I just needed some mindless fun. 3 months into the relationship, I realized I wanted a family and he wasn't the right man for that. He even cried when I dumped him. I don't want to brag, but he said ''you're so charming, cute, and you're such an amazing soul. Any man would be lucky to have you'' and I felt that, he really was in love with me. He was heart-broken, but we managed to stay friends and... he has moved on, but he still really loves me in a non romantic way and I'm an important person to him, I went from girlfriend to older sister if that makes sense. Anyway... long story short: his mother has health issues. She even had cancer a few years ago. She doesn't have enough money for a dentist and her health is so poor she can't even find a job. His dad doesn't make enough money, and can't even fix his car or buy a new second hand one. My ex boyfriend doesn't have enough money for University aaand... the fact he lives in a very small town means he is unable to get a job, all the jobs available are in other towns. We met up a few days ago, he cried and even put his head on my chest while crying ( I wasn't weirded out, we're still really close and awesome friends) and I hugged him. I genuinely want to do something to fix his life... I know it's not my job, but I was born into a moderately wealthy family, my father and my mother work in IB, I own a few properties... I'm not * rich *, but 10k isn't a lot of money for me, but that money would probably save him and his family. Would I be kind to do that or would I just be weird? Yes, kindness is a good thing, but I wouldn't want them to think ''damn this lady is so dumb, this was unnecessary, awkward'' TL;DR I want to donate money to my ex, but I wouldn't want to overdo it. Oh I live in Europe by the way, 10k over here is a little more than 10k in the US submitted by /u/False-Koala7125 [link] [comments]
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Going to use a throwaway.
I'm a 35 year old woman. Last year I had a short relationship (3 months) with this younger man. He's handsome and a good guy, I had broken up with my boyfriend of 7 years a few months earlier and I just needed some mindless fun. 3 months into the relationship, I realized I wanted a family and he wasn't the right man for that. He even cried when I dumped him. I don't want to brag, but he said ''you're so charming, cute, and you're such an amazing soul. Any man would be lucky to have you'' and I felt that, he really was in love with me. He was heart-broken, but we managed to stay friends and... he has moved on, but he still really loves me in a non romantic way and I'm an important person to him, I went from girlfriend to older sister if that makes sense.
Anyway... long story short: his mother has health issues. She even had cancer a few years ago. She doesn't have enough money for a dentist and her health is so poor she can't even find a job. His dad doesn't make enough money, and can't even fix his car or buy a new second hand one. My ex boyfriend doesn't have enough money for University aaand... the fact he lives in a very small town means he is unable to get a job, all the jobs available are in other towns.
We met up a few days ago, he cried and even put his head on my chest while crying ( I wasn't weirded out, we're still really close and awesome friends) and I hugged him.
I genuinely want to do something to fix his life... I know it's not my job, but I was born into a moderately wealthy family, my father and my mother work in IB, I own a few properties... I'm not * rich *, but 10k isn't a lot of money for me, but that money would probably save him and his family.
Would I be kind to do that or would I just be weird? Yes, kindness is a good thing, but I wouldn't want them to think ''damn this lady is so dumb, this was unnecessary, awkward''
TL;DR I want to donate money to my ex, but I wouldn't want to overdo it.
Oh I live in Europe by the way, 10k over here is a little more than 10k in the US
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