Fiance's family drama and me :-)

Me (25F) and my fiance (25M) have been engaged for a year and are planning our wedding for next August. Across the board, things in our relationship are easy, communicative, and we have good strategies for dealing with conflict. Except for one thing... his family. He comes from a wealthy family and has two older sisters. He joined the army to get away from them, and he has always felt detached from them. I have a good family but i was excited to get along with his family to have a large family unit and feel like I am getting another set of parents and sisters. After meeting his family a few times, I went with my fiance when we were still dating to visit them for christmas. They immediatly started making jokes about my fiance. saying things like "thank you so much for putting up with him" "you are such an angel for dating him" and i found it really awkward, because this was the only thing they seemed to be able to say to me. His sister confronted me at one point and told me how much of an ass her brother is. He eventually confronted them and asked them to stop bc it was making me uncomfortable and his mom snapped at him and told him that "this is how we are, she will have to get used to it". She then didn't speak to either my fiance or I for 3 days. We went out again this past Christmas and everything was going well. Everyone was acting nice enough and I was happy. During Christmas my future mother in law made some food that I couldn't eat bc of allergies. We didn't have any other food on hand and we didn't have access to a car to go grab groceries. My fiance told her the situation and she made a joke about me being so starving. My fiance told her "thats not funny" and from that point forward she hasnt said anything to us. Its been two months now, and the only text message has been a message to my fiance that she cc'd me on telling him that he is very ungreatful and to "never do that again" among other lovely language. His sisters follow their mother like chicks and they have cut out their brother but sometimes message me about our dog photos. His dad will call occasionally, but it is noticably less contact than before this incident. My question is this. Our wedding is next August. We are not going out to see them until our wedding---how do you live with not having good in laws and how do you help a partner who feels like they don't have a family? TLDR: Fiance (25M) and I (25F) are mostly no contact with his parents. We are getting married soon. How do I cope with the loss of in-laws and help him with not having a family? submitted by /u/greengerms711 [link] [comments]

Me (25F) and my fiance (25M) have been engaged for a year and are planning our wedding for next August. Across the board, things in our relationship are easy, communicative, and we have good strategies for dealing with conflict.

Except for one thing... his family.

He comes from a wealthy family and has two older sisters. He joined the army to get away from them, and he has always felt detached from them.

I have a good family but i was excited to get along with his family to have a large family unit and feel like I am getting another set of parents and sisters.

After meeting his family a few times, I went with my fiance when we were still dating to visit them for christmas. They immediatly started making jokes about my fiance. saying things like "thank you so much for putting up with him" "you are such an angel for dating him" and i found it really awkward, because this was the only thing they seemed to be able to say to me.

His sister confronted me at one point and told me how much of an ass her brother is.

He eventually confronted them and asked them to stop bc it was making me uncomfortable and his mom snapped at him and told him that "this is how we are, she will have to get used to it". She then didn't speak to either my fiance or I for 3 days.

We went out again this past Christmas and everything was going well. Everyone was acting nice enough and I was happy.

During Christmas my future mother in law made some food that I couldn't eat bc of allergies. We didn't have any other food on hand and we didn't have access to a car to go grab groceries. My fiance told her the situation and she made a joke about me being so starving. My fiance told her "thats not funny" and from that point forward she hasnt said anything to us. Its been two months now, and the only text message has been a message to my fiance that she cc'd me on telling him that he is very ungreatful and to "never do that again" among other lovely language.

His sisters follow their mother like chicks and they have cut out their brother but sometimes message me about our dog photos. His dad will call occasionally, but it is noticably less contact than before this incident.

My question is this. Our wedding is next August. We are not going out to see them until our wedding---how do you live with not having good in laws and how do you help a partner who feels like they don't have a family?

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TLDR: Fiance (25M) and I (25F) are mostly no contact with his parents. We are getting married soon. How do I cope with the loss of in-laws and help him with not having a family?

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