My (24F) mother (55F) keeps denying the things she literally JUST said. Do parents really forget or do they just refuse to admit?

So this has been happening really frequently for the past few years. Whenever I’m having a conversation with her, and if she says something mildly irritating (nothing insulting or mean though) I would ask why she would say that or put it like that. And that’s when the argument would start. She would claim that no she did not say that or she did not put it like that, and that I am not paying attention to her when she talks and that she is gonna repeat what she really said for the one last time and not gonna argue about it. At first she would just calmly and casually respond like that and then she’s start get super mad about it if the conversation keeps going even though I remember perfectly clear what she said and how she said it. Does this happen to anyone else’s parents? I do have to admit, I used to be a bad listener and would make mistakes like that, but then I have since got rid of that bad habit and I swear I’ll record our conversation just to prove I heard her right. But just because I’ve made mistakes like that in the past doesn’t mean she’s just going to automatically deny everything I say. And I really don’t think she’s intentionally acting like she doesn’t remember it, honestly it feels she she meant it when she said it but like every single time she forgets right away what she says without even thinking about it for a second and starts to get mad at me which is just extremely annoying and frustrating. I just feel like there’s a better way to communicate between us instead of going back and forth and ends up in arguments. And sometimes even if she finally admits and remembers what she actually said, she’ll be like oh so what I didn’t remember what I said or so what if I put it that way what is the big deal here. Which just adds onto the frustration and irritation! I don’t know if I need to be a better communicator or if I keep triggering her rage but I feel like I don’t see this conflict with any other people and their parents. Any advice or suggestion is much appreciated! Thank you. TLDR: mom doesn’t remember what she said a second ago for some reason and refuses to admit what she said and blames me for making it a big deal even though what she said is mildly irritating. submitted by /u/Enough-Jaguar8313 [link] [comments]

So this has been happening really frequently for the past few years. Whenever I’m having a conversation with her, and if she says something mildly irritating (nothing insulting or mean though) I would ask why she would say that or put it like that. And that’s when the argument would start. She would claim that no she did not say that or she did not put it like that, and that I am not paying attention to her when she talks and that she is gonna repeat what she really said for the one last time and not gonna argue about it. At first she would just calmly and casually respond like that and then she’s start get super mad about it if the conversation keeps going even though I remember perfectly clear what she said and how she said it. Does this happen to anyone else’s parents? I do have to admit, I used to be a bad listener and would make mistakes like that, but then I have since got rid of that bad habit and I swear I’ll record our conversation just to prove I heard her right. But just because I’ve made mistakes like that in the past doesn’t mean she’s just going to automatically deny everything I say. And I really don’t think she’s intentionally acting like she doesn’t remember it, honestly it feels she she meant it when she said it but like every single time she forgets right away what she says without even thinking about it for a second and starts to get mad at me which is just extremely annoying and frustrating. I just feel like there’s a better way to communicate between us instead of going back and forth and ends up in arguments. And sometimes even if she finally admits and remembers what she actually said, she’ll be like oh so what I didn’t remember what I said or so what if I put it that way what is the big deal here. Which just adds onto the frustration and irritation! I don’t know if I need to be a better communicator or if I keep triggering her rage but I feel like I don’t see this conflict with any other people and their parents. Any advice or suggestion is much appreciated! Thank you.

TLDR: mom doesn’t remember what she said a second ago for some reason and refuses to admit what she said and blames me for making it a big deal even though what she said is mildly irritating.

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