Tired of all the health crisis in our lives
TL;DR: my husband is chronically ill after a major injury in his youth. I have caretaker burnout after a recent bout of issues and just miss when things used to be simpler for us. This is just a vent/off my chest and looking for some validation My husband and I have been together for over a decade, we have a kid together and have built a pretty great life. It just seems like there’s Always something and I miss the uncomplicated, exciting time before kid stuff and car payments and health issues started escalating. We’re both pushing 40 and while I have my own stuff my health issues are fairly under control and I live pretty normally but he’s not been so lucky. He was in a pretty bad car accident in his early 20s and while he’s mostly ok he just has stuff pop up with varying frequency. Surgery to fix a pin that wiggled loose, new bone spur sprouting up behind an old muscle tear, period of his migraines getting worse, etc. It’s always been like this to be clear, when we met he had a visible limp and would use a cane which he’s reduced the need for with persistent PT. It’s not like either of us don’t take care of ourselves, sometimes life just gives you a shitty hand and dealing with it takes a lot of time and energy that would otherwise be spent on each other. Which I guess is where I’m now exhausted. I went out with some friends today, he stayed home with the kid cause he wasn’t feeling great. Two in the group are newly married and I just felt so jealous of the back and forth flirting between them and missed when things used to be that easy for us. I texted him some flirty stuff and that was reciprocated but then the convo got turned towards how he was feeling and then how our kid was doing and just…sigh. I miss when mildly flirty texts would escalate to me just itching to get home and jump his bones. I know it’s normal for stuff to cool down and I don’t really expect him to be full on sexting me while he’s in pain. We generally still have a lot of intimacy but the last month or so has been rather trying with health issues and I’m just feeling the caretaker burn out. I love him, not going anywhere and I’m sure as soon as this issue calms down we’ll be flirting and intimate again and I’ll be ok. Just wanted to vent, thanks to anyone who read this. submitted by /u/JozzyFruit [link] [comments]
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TL;DR: my husband is chronically ill after a major injury in his youth. I have caretaker burnout after a recent bout of issues and just miss when things used to be simpler for us. This is just a vent/off my chest and looking for some validation
My husband and I have been together for over a decade, we have a kid together and have built a pretty great life. It just seems like there’s Always something and I miss the uncomplicated, exciting time before kid stuff and car payments and health issues started escalating.
We’re both pushing 40 and while I have my own stuff my health issues are fairly under control and I live pretty normally but he’s not been so lucky. He was in a pretty bad car accident in his early 20s and while he’s mostly ok he just has stuff pop up with varying frequency. Surgery to fix a pin that wiggled loose, new bone spur sprouting up behind an old muscle tear, period of his migraines getting worse, etc.
It’s always been like this to be clear, when we met he had a visible limp and would use a cane which he’s reduced the need for with persistent PT. It’s not like either of us don’t take care of ourselves, sometimes life just gives you a shitty hand and dealing with it takes a lot of time and energy that would otherwise be spent on each other.
Which I guess is where I’m now exhausted. I went out with some friends today, he stayed home with the kid cause he wasn’t feeling great. Two in the group are newly married and I just felt so jealous of the back and forth flirting between them and missed when things used to be that easy for us.
I texted him some flirty stuff and that was reciprocated but then the convo got turned towards how he was feeling and then how our kid was doing and just…sigh. I miss when mildly flirty texts would escalate to me just itching to get home and jump his bones.
I know it’s normal for stuff to cool down and I don’t really expect him to be full on sexting me while he’s in pain. We generally still have a lot of intimacy but the last month or so has been rather trying with health issues and I’m just feeling the caretaker burn out. I love him, not going anywhere and I’m sure as soon as this issue calms down we’ll be flirting and intimate again and I’ll be ok. Just wanted to vent, thanks to anyone who read this.
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